Is your boyfriend cheating on you?

Cheating can be perceived as anything from a simple flirt, a wink of the eye or a sneaky kiss depending on your beliefs, however cheating is more recognized as sexual activity such as full sex, oral sex and even phone sex.

Your ‘boo’ may tell you ‘yeah, I’ve cheated on past girlfriends but you’re different’, but mark my words, if they have done it in the past, there is no guarantee that they won’t do it to you.
But why do men cheat? (OK, I know, it’s not ONLY the guys but from my experience, they certainly cheat more than us girls).
Dr. Gilda Charles, Therapist and Author, suggests there are various reasons why your partner may stray; starting as early as observing elders cheating throughout childhood, peer pressure – especially while growing up  - is a factor, and you can even blame it on the cheater having a low self esteem.

Personally, I think cheating is a clear indication that something has gone wrong somewhere in your relationship. If it’s not worth it why bother cheating, just leave, right? Surely that’s better than putting your partner through the emotional trauma of finding out that the one they love has been playing away.

It’s not just the emotional trauma either, if you have been cheated on, there are also physical risks, such as being potentially exposed to HIV and other STDs,
To avoid this, firstly I would suggest wearing condoms at all times, even if you’re in a long-term relationship, just in case.

There are also some clear tell tale signs to keep an eye out for.

After a bit of investigating on the web, I put together five signs that your man might be cheating on you:

1. Jumpy aura – yup that’s when he’s always a little uneasy around you especially when his phone rings or he’s on the net. Hmmm?
2. Feeling disconnected around him as if you both are “drifting apart”.
3. Lies, lies and more lies. You’re picking up on little subtle white lies popping around and changes in his story, that weren’t there before.
4. Unusual mood swings…yes they have it too, especially when they have conflicting thoughts and they suspect you’re doing the same to them.
5. Intuition –  if you have that unmistakable feeling and signs are pointing you to such, then its probably because your thoughts are true… However, always use a little discretion with it – don’t always jump to assumed conclusions.

Now before I go it should be noted that these five signs are never set in stone and are guidelines only. Don’t go accusing your other half of cheating because he hides a call from you or tells you a white lie but, if he is doing all five of these regularly I would suggest something suspect may be going on – so just keep your eyes open for the signs.

These are my top five signs, however if you have any tried and tested means of finding out if your man is cheating then drop them in the comment box below.